Divorce Resource Center
A service for those who are questioning their pending divorce
 
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New book:
Stolen Vows
 
 
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Judy Parejko at jparejko@juno.com


Keeping a marriage together can be one of the hardest jobs we face. And when a relationship hits stormy waters, "divorce" may seem like the right "solution" to the problem---at least, for one of the spouses involved.

Divorce is a harsh and demoralizing way to resolve issues that have not been tackled in other ways. Many people file for divorce before trying other options that can repair damaged relations.

Research shows that up to 80% of divorce cases are "low-conflict" couples who have not learned the skills needed to maintain a healthy relationship. Learning these skills is a "solution" that is much less destructive than going through a divorce.

And most important, if you have children, you need to consider how the "loss of an intact family" will affect your children.

The ideas offered here . . . . in a sense . . . . are plowing new ground. The mission is to offer hope, to instill courage, and to give direction.

And, the first step is saying "No" to an unwanted divorce.

Since no-fault divorce was rolled out across the country, most spouses understand it means "no way to stop it". But, don't let stop you from doing what you believe is 'right'.

Marriage was not meant to be a "throwaway" commodity - something that you shed when things get rough . . . . or something that the other partner can just walk away from and then file using the "no-fault" ground. But, that's the way it works now. And, for those who have a real complaint, they are not given any opportunity to file it since no-fault is essentially the law of the land.

Typically, if you hire a lawyer, he/she will just tell you that there is nothing you can do but "reach a good settlement". The problem is, lawyers have been trained to believe that and only a handful of them will stand up to the current system because doing so will offend the judge. So, lawyers are now perpetrators in an insidious process that could be named "forced" divorce.

Michael Reagan's important new book, Twice Adopted, includes his
childhood perspective of his parents' divorce,
plus an excerpt about his father's role in No-Fault Divorce.
See excerpt: www.stolenvows.com/TwiceAdopted.htm

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"The No-Blame Game: Why No-Fault Divorce Is
Our Most Dangerous Social Experiment"

"How America Can End Its Divorce Epidemic"

Read 1987 ABA Article on No-Fault's flaws